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What Anxiety Actually Is, Because Its More Than Just Worrying

Anxiety is the restless nights of sleep, as you toss and turn. Its your brain never being able to shut off. Its the thoughts you over-think before bedtime and all of your worst fears become a reality in dreams and nightmares.

Its waking up tired even though your day just started.

Anxiety is learning how to function with sleep deprivation because it took you until 2 am to shut your eyes.

Its every text you wonder Its a double or triple text in case you messed up. Anxiety is answering texts embarrassingly fast.

Anxiety is the time you spend waiting for an answer as a scenario plays out in your mind of what they could be thinking or are they mad?

Anxiety is an unanswered text that kills you inside

even though you tell yourself,

Anxiety is that critical voice that says It’s believing every negative scenario you can come up with.

Anxiety is waiting. It always feels like you’re waiting.

Its the inaccurate conclusions drawn as your mind takes off and you have no choice but to follow its destructive lead.

Anxiety is apologizing for things that dont even require the words,

Anxiety is self-doubt and a lack of confidence both in you, yourself and those around you.

Anxiety is being hyper aware of everyone and everything. So much so, you can tell if theres a shift in someone merely by their tone or word choice.

Anxiety is ruining relationships before they even begin. It tells you, Then you jump to conclusions and ruin it.

Anxiety is a constant state of worrying and panicking and being on the edge. Its irrational fears.

Its thinking too much, its caring too much. Because the root of people with anxiety is caring.

Its sweaty palms and a racing heart. But on the outside, no one can see it. You appear calm and at ease and smiling but underneath is anything but that.

Anxiety is the art of deception for people who dont know you. And for the people who do, its a constant stream of phrases like, or or Its friends listening to these conclusions youve drawn and not really understanding how you got there. But they’re there trying to support you, as things go from bad to worse in your mind.

Anxiety is wanting to fix something that isnt even a problem.

Its the stream of questions that make you doubt yourself.

Its turning back around just to double check.

Anxiety is the uneasiness at a party because you think all eyes are on you and no one wants you there. Anxiety is that extra shot you take and it seems like youre finally relaxing. Until you wake up the next day hungover, full of regret and wondering what you said to who and do you owe them an apology?

Anxiety is the overcompensating and trying too hard to please people.

Anxiety is being everywhere on time because the thought of being late would put you over the edge.

Anxiety is the fear of failure and striving for perfection. Then beating yourself up when you fall short.

Its always needing a schedule or a plan.

Anxiety is that voice inside your head thats saying

Its trying to exceed peoples expectations even if youre killing yourself to do so. Anxiety is taking on more than you can handle just so you are distracted and not overthinking something.

Anxiety is procrastination because you’re paralyzed with fear of failing so you hold it off.

Its the triggers that set you off.

Its breaking down in private and crying when youre overwhelmed but no one will ever see that side of you. Anxiety is picking up and trying again because the only thing worse than overcoming other people is overcoming you and your own demons.

Its beating that critical voice that says,

Anxiety is the want and the need to control things because it feels like this thing in your life is outside of your control and you have to learn to live with it.

But more than anything anxiety is caring. Its never wanting to hurt someones feelings. Its never wanting to do something wrong. More than anything, its the want and need to simply be accepted and liked. So you try too hard sometimes.

And when you come across friends who begin to understand, they help you through it.

Read more: http://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-corley/2017/01/what-anxiety-actually-is-because-its-more-than-just-worrying/

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This Is How You Love Someone With Anxiety

Someone with anxiety is inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. So much so, sometimes they might be the ones to ruin a relationship. The truth is they battle something they cant control and there is a sense of insecurity within themselves when it comes to relationships. They know its difficult and they dont want to burden you with their irrational thoughts and worries. So instead, they push you away before you get the chance to leave yourself.

Remember theyre worth fighting for.

It might be hard sometimes. There might be stupid fights of scenarios theyve created in their own head. But more than anything, they’re worth fighting for. The toughest people usually are. And if you can fight with them through this, itll come back to you ten folds.

The phrase, Its okay, can never be used enough.

Its two words. Two words that stop every thought running through their head. And honestly, you can never say it enough.

Sometimes you just have to listen.

Theyre going to play out these situations in their mind. Theyre going to jump from point A to point B and sometimes youre not even going to know how they got there. The best thing you can do is let them go off on their tangent. Even if theres no solution or a fear they worry about in the future, the act of listening will help.

Dont tell them, ‘youre overreacting.’

To you, it might seem irrational. But to them whatever they open up to you about, it’s something that actually keeps them up at night. So just take it as best you can.

They probably wont sleep through the night.

Whether it takes them a while to fall asleep or stay asleep, youll be woken up by them at 3 am as they lay there wide awake. Just hold them close and the comfort in your presence might be enough to get them back to sleep.

Remember its not that they dont trust you. Theyre scared.

You say its an ex and in their mind, they jump to cheating. You say its a friend and in their mind, its someone trying to break you too up. Its not you and your relationship that isnt trusted, its every worse case scenario automatically playing out in their head and they hate themselves for it.

Answering texts timely does help more than you know.

Youve probably noticed they answer embarrassingly fast and they know not everyone is like them but it helps when people understand it. It helps when you say I cant talk now this is why Ill text you later. Silence kills anyone with anxiety. It creates problems in their mind that arent even there. It ends in apologies that arent even needed. And it adds a layer of stress to their life they wish they could control.

Dont be mad if they send a double text.

You might turn your phone on, to four texts. If you can remember its not that theyre trying to be annoying. They care. They care too much and they know it makes them look bad.

Sometimes they just wont be up for going out.

They might cancel last minute or freeze in the middle of a night out and just not be able to do it. If they tell you they have to leave dont feel a sense of guilt or obligation to go with them. Just know they tried and for whatever reason, they couldnt handle it. What sets people with anxiety off can be many things but for a lot of people, parties in which they dont know someone ends in two ways, theyll either be quiet and awkward or youll be carrying them out as they chose vodka to ease their worries.

Accept their apologies even you don’t understand.

Whether its a night out gone wrong, a triple text, saying or doing the wrong thing, they are so observant. They will pick up on the slightest shift in you and before you even realize you might be upset and they will apologize for it.

Help when you can but know when you can’t.

They would rather have ten meltdowns, biting off more than they can chew and they will never admit they can’t handle something. Theyll always say yes. Theyll never turn anyone away. And in those moments where it seems like they are going to fall apart and break just hold them. Help them if you can but know they’re inclined to not ask for help. They’re used to dealing with things on their own.

Once trust is gained theyll love you unbelievably hard.

While uncompleted to lists, plans getting messed up, texts going answered, might overwhelm someone with anxiety, if there is something they are good at it’s love. If theres something they’re strong in, its their ability to show you how much they adore and appreciate you. It might take them a while to trust you but once they do their capacity to love you will fill you in ways, you didnt know you were empty or even missing something.

Read more: http://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-corley/2017/01/this-is-how-you-love-someone-with-anxiety/

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What Anxiety Actually Is, Because Its More Than Just Worrying

Anxiety is the restless nights of sleep, as you toss and turn. Its your brain never being able to shut off. Its the thoughts you over-think before bedtime and all of your worst fears become a reality in dreams and nightmares.

Its waking up tired even though your day just started.

Anxiety is learning how to function with sleep deprivation because it took you until 2 am to shut your eyes.

Its every text you wonder Its a double or triple text in case you messed up. Anxiety is answering texts embarrassingly fast.

Anxiety is the time you spend waiting for an answer as a scenario plays out in your mind of what they could be thinking or are they mad?

Anxiety is an unanswered text that kills you inside

even though you tell yourself,

Anxiety is that critical voice that says It’s believing every negative scenario you can come up with.

Anxiety is waiting. It always feels like you’re waiting.

Its the inaccurate conclusions drawn as your mind takes off and you have no choice but to follow its destructive lead.

Anxiety is apologizing for things that dont even require the words,

Anxiety is self-doubt and a lack of confidence both in you, yourself and those around you.

Anxiety is being hyper aware of everyone and everything. So much so, you can tell if theres a shift in someone merely by their tone or word choice.

Anxiety is ruining relationships before they even begin. It tells you, Then you jump to conclusions and ruin it.

Anxiety is a constant state of worrying and panicking and being on the edge. Its irrational fears.

Its thinking too much, its caring too much. Because the root of people with anxiety is caring.

Its sweaty palms and a racing heart. But on the outside, no one can see it. You appear calm and at ease and smiling but underneath is anything but that.

Anxiety is the art of deception for people who dont know you. And for the people who do, its a constant stream of phrases like, or or Its friends listening to these conclusions youve drawn and not really understanding how you got there. But they’re there trying to support you, as things go from bad to worse in your mind.

Anxiety is wanting to fix something that isnt even a problem.

Its the stream of questions that make you doubt yourself.

Its turning back around just to double check.

Anxiety is the uneasiness at a party because you think all eyes are on you and no one wants you there. Anxiety is that extra shot you take and it seems like youre finally relaxing. Until you wake up the next day hungover, full of regret and wondering what you said to who and do you owe them an apology?

Anxiety is the overcompensating and trying too hard to please people.

Anxiety is being everywhere on time because the thought of being late would put you over the edge.

Anxiety is the fear of failure and striving for perfection. Then beating yourself up when you fall short.

Its always needing a schedule or a plan.

Anxiety is that voice inside your head thats saying

Its trying to exceed peoples expectations even if youre killing yourself to do so. Anxiety is taking on more than you can handle just so you are distracted and not overthinking something.

Anxiety is procrastination because you’re paralyzed with fear of failing so you hold it off.

Its the triggers that set you off.

Its breaking down in private and crying when youre overwhelmed but no one will ever see that side of you. Anxiety is picking up and trying again because the only thing worse than overcoming other people is overcoming you and your own demons.

Its beating that critical voice that says,

Anxiety is the want and the need to control things because it feels like this thing in your life is outside of your control and you have to learn to live with it.

But more than anything anxiety is caring. Its never wanting to hurt someones feelings. Its never wanting to do something wrong. More than anything, its the want and need to simply be accepted and liked. So you try too hard sometimes.

And when you come across friends who begin to understand, they help you through it.

Read more: http://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-corley/2017/01/what-anxiety-actually-is-because-its-more-than-just-worrying/

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